About the author
Mayim Bialik is an actor known for her role on Blossom and, more recently, on The Big Bang Theory. She is also a neuroscientist (She has a PhD). And a mother to two children.
She is a rara avis when it comes to Hollywood. She isn’t tall, blond or skinny (not that there is anything wrong with that). She chooses to dress very conservatively. She speaks openly about her faith. She is an advocate for more women in science. She supports breastfeeding (even exclusively breastfeeding until one year old). She talks about attachment parenting on the site Kveller. She is vegan. She has concerns about the need of some vaccines. She is fascinating to me. It’s rare for an actor to show that they have thoughts, opinions, that they are multifaceted. Moreover, when these opinions are not very popular.
What I like about this book
It’s an educational book for sure, I learned more about parenting attachment and I heard for the first time in my life about Elimination Communication. It opened my eyes to a new world of parenting.
However, the most important thing I learned through this book is to be at peace with my parenting style. Not to be ashamed of what you think is best for your kids. She has been dragged by the media for some of her parenting views, but she didn’t back up. She always kept an open dialogue. I thank her for that.
How you parent should be a representation of your values and an answer to your family’s needs. How I parent has some similarities to how she parents but it also has some differences. And that it’s ok. How I raise my kids and how you raise yours might be different.
We should all respect that (provided that there is no violence, more info here).
With this realization I started reading more books about child development and parenting with a new outlook: I’m not a bad parent for not following their advice to the tee. I’ll just take some notes and tips and use them if needed.
Do I recommend it?
Yes. Definitely. Here is why: She taught me how to answer to comments about how you parent in a calmed, eloquent and respectful way. Likewise, I learned how not to judge other parents.
This is key. As a parent you often get unwanted advice and ill-advice remarks filling you with self-doubt and anger. As you need to reaffirm that your choices are right you do the same to other parents. It’s a never-ending circle. Now, when I get a comment, I just explain my reasoning for doing it in this way and thank them for the advice. I make a point not to resent them and move along with my day.
If you do read this book, let me know your thoughts in the comment section.